This would not be a blog for women without at least one post on dating.
Dating in 2018, is WEIRD.
If I really want to go on a date, I go on Bumble or Tinder and I swipe for a while till I match with someone I would consider going on a date with, then ask to chill, and there you go. Friday night no plans, becomes a date night. Easy peasy.
It's so easy, that one might start taking dates for granted.
Dating then becomes a series of test dates, a few infatuations that heat up just as fast as they dry up. You can't help but analyze your dates especially when you meet them on a first date and need to decide right away whether you like them or not. Usually, you either click right away and think you wanna chill again, or, you think that this is a nice person but not the right person for yours truly. On that rare occasion, you think the guy is a complete an odd ball and not your type at all, and you want to just run away....but you can't.
When you have to decide right away whether you want to date someone, it takes away from the innocence of the moment of just getting to know someone new slowly. People develop feelings slowly, and over time, and not just over dinner.
When I date people that I met through friends or school, I see them on several occasions before I start dating them, before I feel any type of pressure to pursue a relationship with the person. Things progress so slowly, that before you know it, you're in a relationship. Like a frog in hot water, as the relationship slowly warms up, when it gets really hot, it seems so gradual and natural, that you were never surprised.
As opposed to these almost blind dates where we jump into relationships, expecting so much from someone we really barely know. I don't really get this online dating, and how it can be successful.
And there is so much pressure to decide if you want to see each other again, YES or NO. Decide right now. Are we worth each other's time and investment?
As if, life is just a series of one time encounters until you meet the man of your dreams.
Can't we all just be nice acquaintances first, hang out a few times, and ever so gradually, become something more?
Also, how can we have more opportunities to just meet someone new, without any pressure, and go from there? WITHOUT meeting them online.
Sometimes, I miss the days before technology ruled the world, before the times where we're all looking down and staring at our phones instead of engaging with the stranger sitting next to us on the subway.
I DARE YOU, the next time you see a cute individual that you might want to know, talk to them.