Do you ever have problems making eye-contact? When I was young, I used to have a huge problem with it. And sometimes, when I think to much when the other person is talking, I catch myself out of the moment and I trick myself into old habits and into issues maintaining eye contact.
Sometimes, when I’m not in the present, those are the moments I realize where my insecurities get to me. When I allow myself the hesitation, the self doubt, old habits creep….
Do you ever see a hot guy walking past you or on the subway ride, and as soon as you feel their eyes gaze your way, your eyes become glued to the ground or in some completely opposite and oblivious direction. And we wonder why we don’t meet anyone new or interesting anymore.
Sometimes, when I have to do any type of public speaking and I haven’t done it for a while, my voice quivers, nerves show.
When I catch myself doubting myself, I think I’m not the most confident person. Those are the times, that opportunities escape me, when I’m nervous, where I show the lack of confidence.
Sometimes, when I’m in a class full of awesome and accomplished people, and I want to ask a question, but then I don’t. I feel inadequate. My question is not important, it’s not great enough for all these people to hear it. And sometimes when I do ask my question, my voice still quakes and quivers.
Maybe if I don’t doubt, second guess myself, just halt any self doubt, then only what I truly am would show. That I wouldn’t stumble to find my words and express myself. If I was just exactly who I am, all the time, I wonder how things would be different.
When in doubt, Just be Present.